YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME
If you are a survivor of domestic or sexual violence, you have probably experienced situations in which others ask you about what you did or what you were doing to contribute to being violated.
Victim-blaming is an enormously toxic problem in our culture and it is absolutely essential in regards to healing that you know that being assaulted was in no way your fault. What you were wearing, what time of day you were out, how much you were drinking, etc., does not matter whatsoever. The individual(s) who assaulted you are 100% responsible for making the choice to violate you.
Find supportive people to help you process this and feel free at any time to call our Help Line (573-642-4422) even just to talk.
Laci Green does a fabulous job explaining why victim-blaming is so incorrect and unhelpful in the following short video.